evil (adjective): profoundly immoral and wicked (Oxford English Dictionary Online)
I did not disclose much details of my fiancé during our engagement period – as I fear of fitnah and as I couldn’t promise the future of our relationship. Plus, I am not as sturdy as I was and I fear of the probability of what ifs. Frankly speaking, most of my friends did not even know that I am engaged, and I purposely didn’t tell them. I didn’t think of the evil eyes as much at first, just my insecurities were too loud it didn’t allow me to flaunt the uncertain.
But around few weeks before my nikah, I uploaded our engagement photo, for memoirs sake. I want my engagement photo to be there, before I upload my nikah photos. It was purely my sincere intention to share the happy news of my engagement (although it has been almost a year).
Unfortunately, few weeks before the big day; as I was pushing myself to my core limits with tutoring, I had an accident. Bad one. I was admitted for four days and I had my bone fractured. It was really bad that I barely walk, and it was exactly around two weeks before my akad nikah. Alhamdulillah it was just fractured, it could’ve be much more worse, yknow? I took the incident as trial, and I didn’t think of anything else. However, one day, an ustaz came to me and we had a small talk. He told me about al ayn, which kept me puzzled. Huznudzon or positive thinking is what he asked me to do, but ai’n does exist, he said. You’re getting married, he hinted. I didn’t really take what he said. But I get it.
So I went back and did my homework. Back in IIU, I’ve had similar friends who would never upload their full body photos, always feeling bit too scared to flaunt their happiness, always with precautions. I understand how modest that is, because there’s more good in hiding happiness, flaws & being moderate in everything.
Back to the highlighted title, evil eye; or ai’n. Do you believe in one? Few crucial things happened to me and I broke down real hard. It wasn’t because of the belief of ai’n at first, but then a colleague seeps that thought into my thinking. So I stopped excessive sharing without taking precautions. What is my precautions?
Personally, I always thought of uploading my happiness as sharing joy. But as much as I hate to admit, not anyone enjoys watching one. I’m fine with the kind of jealousy of wanting to reach the achievements I set, which is what I called as a “healthy wants”. But precautions from the evil eyes is what I need. So I did my readings.
It was written in Quran as well. Let me try to paraphrase what I learn on aboutislam, my favourite website. I am going to block out the following, which I found interesting;
So is the evil eye real?
Yes! The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“The evil eye is real, and if anything were to overtake the divine decree (al-qadar) it would be the evil eye.” (Muslim)
Insyallah to help you in reading, I am going to bold quote some selections of piece that I found beneficial below. Especially some words that cannot be changed such as hadith and ayatul Quran.
So what is evil eyes?
Well, the definition is pretty much derives literally with what it is labelled as. When another person harms the targeted person with his or her eyes, it is called as evil eye. What happened? It’s actually pretty clear. Let me put it into a proper situation. Imagine you uploaded a picture of you with your new car, and let’s say a person has been admiring the car for so long – until his evil feelings affect it, by means of his repeatedly looking at the object of his jealousy.
Does this means that we can’t be jealous at all? Thoughts like “I am jealous with the rich because they can do more, and I envy that she has better skin, I envy that she scored straight As … etc etc” these are normal. We are human. We felt that.
Or does it means that we can’t upload any?
So what is the difference between what will harm you (evil eyes) and what wouldn’t (envy, jealousy)?
About Islam website quoted;
“Everyone who puts the evil eye on another is envious, but not every envier puts the evil eye on another. The word haasid (envier) is more general in meaning than the word ‘aa’in (one who puts the evil eye on another), so seeking refuge with Allah from the one who envies includes seeking refuge with Him from the one who puts the evil eye on another.
The evil eye is like an arrow which comes from the soul of the one who envies and the one who puts the evil eye on another towards the one who is envied and on whom the evil eye is put; sometimes it hits him and sometimes it misses. If the target is exposed and unprotected, it will affect him, but if the target is cautious and armed, the arrow will have no effect and may even come back on the one who launched it.” (Ibn al Qayyim, Zaad al-Ma’aad)
So what are the precautions, my dear? The explanation is more detailed and lengthy on aboutislam, please do so if you need more ideas on this.
As it would be impossible for me to paraphrase such beauty of words written, again, but I would try my best to deliver the message across – mostly using selective block quote and my “effective” paraphrasing skill.
According to aboutislam, there are many ways that we can practise to prevent evil eyes.
Some of the highlighted actions are;
1) The power of Al-Mu’awwidhatayn & Surah Al-Ikhlas
To put it into our layman terms, it’s the 3 Qul. From Wikipedia, Al-Mu’awwidhatayn means to seek refuge – which is basically existed in the last two chapter of Quran; Surah Al-Falaq & Surah An Nas.
lAwadha (عوذ) means he refuged and both surahs are in fact two supplications that begin with: Say: I seek refuge in the Lord
Thus, we got to be confident in God whenever we recite it, believing it provides protection as they are an actual du’a that can do so.
Ibn Al-Qayyim said that;
“The effectiveness of these surahs is great to repel magic, evil eye, and the rest of the evils and the need for a slave to seek Allah’s protection from these two surahs is greater than his need for self, eating, drinking, and wearing dress” (Al-Fawwaid)
Practice the 3 Quls daily, around three times in the morning and evening.
The Prophet said: “Qul Hoo wa Allah Ahad’ and ‘Muwidatain’ when you enter the evening and when you wake up in the morning three times and it will protect you from everything. (Tirmidhi # 3575), Abu Dawud (# 5084).
Remember to also blow these surahs all over your body, before you hit the sack.
Aisha narrated that whenever Allah’s Messenger went to bed every night, he used to cup his hands together and blow over it after reciting surah Al-Ikhlaas, surah Al-Falaq and An-Nas, and then rub his hands over whatever parts of his body he was able to rub, starting with his head, face, and front of his body. He used to do that three times.” (Al-Bukhari)
2. Next, read this du’a
(a’oodhu bi kalimaatillaahit-taammaati min sharri maa khalaq)
The Prophet said: “Whosoever says at nightfall: I seek refuge in the complete words of Allah from the evil in what He has created- no harm shall affect him” (Muslim)
3. Request for blessings
Evil eyes do comes from hasad – or those who envy what he sees, but the scholar also mentioned that it can also be from the person who isn’t jealous, yet just adore it.
The Prophet said:
“Whoever among you sees something in himself or in his possessions or in his brother that he likes, let him pray for blessing for it, because the evil eye is real” (Ibn al-Sunni , al-Haakim)
Yes, it is possible to cause harm to your own self, things you possessed and your loved ones. To prevent this, upon seeing any adornment or beauty owns by your children or significant others, don’t forget to pray for blessings for them. It is completely alright if you like a thing and desire the same for yourself – as long as you don’t wish for it to be taken away from the said person & help to pray for blessings for those person
4. Practise the sunnah
In seeking treatment of evil eyes, it is advisable to always refer to sunnah.
If the evil is done and someone –or yourself— is already affected by the evil eye, it is crucial to follow the instructions from the sunnah, two examples of these cures are doing ruqyah (reciting certain verses and supplications) and if you know who gave the evil eye, asking that person to wash themselves and pour the water over the affected person.
It is strongly recommended to use trustworthy sources to study about these treatments. An example is the book: The world of the jinn and devils by Dr. Umar Sulaiman al Ashqar.
To my understanding, I believe that we always need to return our say to Allah.
I’ve noticed one thing, that moderation is key. It’s hard, it’s really is. But with practise, nothing is impossible. I don’t know how those multi millionaires and idols have done it, but maybe their good deeds cleanse the evil eyes away from them. We never know right? Maybe it’s their sadaqah, or their salah, or their way of arranging words – in ensuring humility and humbleness. Who knows? Maybe they even constantly praying for their followers to receive the same level of happiness – wallahualam
From the website, they taught me that even when we admire someone, an idol per-say and complimenting without praying for blessing for that person can lead to evil eyes. It shows that al-‘ayn can make you seriously ill. Thus, be careful with what you say. Don’t simply cause evil eyes
To end this, here’s a dua I copied from ali&sumaya
أَعُوذُ بِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ التَّامَّاتِ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا خَلَقَ
“I seek refuge in the perfect words of Allah from the evil of that which He has created.”